Hi, I'm fifteen (sophomore in highschool) and I grew up in a Christian community all my life. Lately, I've been tired. Tired of everything. I pretty much rank top 1% if my whole grade and I'm basically known as the goody two shoes who follow all the rules. However, I've been feeling stressed out lately. I can't sit and do work. My grades are slipping and it didn't scare me, which scares me. I currently have a musical (a novel + a book) due on Tuesday, a research paper due tonight, a science investigation on sunday and a video following next wednesday. My teacher who knows me since I was in grade 7 told me that perhaps I'm dealing with too many things that I simply don't want to start. I guess it's the fear of failure that's holding me back, but I'm so tired of trying to cope with the pressure of being perfect. I want to do this all for God and I just feel like He's the only motivation left for me to keep on going. I need a break, but not after I overcome all this - which is hard for me to do. I would appreciate prayers. I'm struggling and I need help, but I don't know who to turn to.

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  • April 19, 2015

    praying for you dear... Am actually going through the same thing, but for me the fear of failure is probably the cause of my tiredness and stress since I tried so hard and failed... the thought of school sometimes even sickens me! but when I actually think about those many failures, I realise That God got me through them as if I didn't even really fail; Am still in school and am doing what I want to do despite those set backs though it does call for hard work and really good grades... I just need to constantly remind myself that God is in control no matter what... To help with the tiredness, am learning to take it one day at a time... if I get ahead of myself and think too much, it stresses me out and I run to God ... He is in control after all and today is the day of salvation... I remind myself in the morning That a new day comes with new blessing and opportunity, it kind of encourages me to think positive and not feel so tired... Anyways, praying for your strength and encouragement dear... ;-)

  • February 12, 2015

    I will definitely be praying for you! I am going through something very similar. I pray for His Peace, which transpasses all understanding. I pray that you would feel His Presence, and look to Him for help. I pray for quick thinking, and the ability to balance hard-work with self-care.

  • February 6, 2015

    Hey :) I'm a junior in college, and I've been in a similar situation - grew up in a Christian community, was the "good kid," top 1% of my grade in high school, always felt pressure to be perfect (or at least "good enough," whatever that is) and now dealing with a ton of stress in college. One of the things that's really helped me recently is Colossians 3. I really liked verses 23-24 where it says "Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance. It is the Lord Christ whom you serve," which is an encouraging reminder that we don't have to be good enough for other people or even for our own standards, because we live for God alone. Yet for a while I still kind of felt that I needed to do more for God. But looking at the whole chapter, it says, "as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved..." BEFORE the commands that Paul gives. And that takes so much more pressure off. Because we are already chosen and holy and beloved, whether we do "enough" or not - we don't have to be perfect in order to be chosen, or holy, or loved. Another thing that's helped me is being reminded that God knows we need rest - like He came up with the Sabbath. And He promises so many times that He will be our strength. In our weakness, He is strong - so there's nothing wrong at all with not being able to do everything, because He still gets the glory. I don't think we were ever meant to do everything. Our humanness only shows how much more powerful and awesome God is. What's great is that God doesn't measure us by our accomplishments, and instead He looks at the heart. Sometimes it's hard to tell what God wants us to do and what responsibilities are good to let go of. But if He wants us to do something, He will give us the ability - and even when we fail, He forgives us and uses those failures for good (and believe me, the past couple years I've seen how even though I've failed hard and fallen flat on my face so many times, His love and forgiveness goes beyond all of that and He does use it all for good, every single time.)

    So I know I've said a bunch of random things that may or may not have been coherent, but I guess what I want to say is that God loves you so much no matter what you do - you don't have to be perfect because Jesus was perfect for you. Just be willing to go where He leads and He will take care of you and every situation you're in, even if you don't do as well as you'd like. And a lot of times it's good to just step back, take a break, and rest in Him and His love. It might help to schedule a time to not think about your responsibilities and just spend time with God and rest in Him. Anyway, I'll be praying for you as you learn how to deal with all of the tiredness and stress and pressure to be perfect. He loves you so much and He will get you through this :)

  • February 6, 2015

    Is there something that resonates deeply with you? Like books, music, sermons, ect., that gives you hope and encouragement? At least for me, listening to music for different scenarios I find myself in, is a real encourager. Another thing is, try reading through the Bible. Seriously, just flip through it. There's so many verses to help us in our difficult struggles. And don't forget you're Christ's Bride. He's so pleased with you, and couldn't be more happy! Paul wrote that in our weakness, He is strongest. I hope you'll find redemption winning soon, because it already has.