Faith, Fear, God, Identity, Spiritual Life

Out With the Safe

February 18, 2015

aglmkels (2 of 3)

Oh dear daughter, why do you think you must choose to shrink back, take the safe road, and hide behind your insecurity? Why are you so afraid of what others may think of you IF you fail? And why do you think of them as failures at all, isn’t that just the term the world has conjured up to beat you down, the word Satan has whispered in your ear to cause you to think less of yourself, resulting in comparison to those who seem to succeed and have it all together? Especially when those “failures” came from a heart so beautifully wanting to honor and serve your Father. Do you think I would nudge you to move if I thought you could not walk?

Did I not call you a child of Mine?

Did I not call you by name to rise up and be life and light in this world? Just as I was with Esther in her chambers as she prepared to risk her life for her people, just as I blessed and honored Ruth as she courageously chose the path of integrity and compassion despite the risks that came with breaking culture, just as I was with Mary as she humbly accepted her role to carry the greatest gift of all…when she could have said “Oh no God, you’ve got the wrong girl”….I too am with you as I ask you to step out and move. I am the same God today as I was then. You are no less a daughter of mine than they were. My dreams for you are not any smaller.

The dreams you dream are beautiful….but just imagine those ten fold, as my creativity stretches far beyond what your sweet little dreaming mind can fathom. All I ask of you is to step. Step towards the unknown, the less “safe” route, the risk that goes against the grain. Dare to believe that great things can happen with your obedience. Dare to believe that every “failure” as the world labels it is just a perfectly created opportunity for growth, gained wisdom and motivation to keep jumping to the next stepping-stone in preparation for the miracle because there is no end point. Finishing the book is not the neat and tidy end, getting the degree is not the last chapter, starting the orphanage, serving the mom, winning the gold is not what finishes and leaves you with a “success” badge. Choosing the adventure is the success. Choosing to get back up is success.

 You get to choose.

You can choose the safety of decisions that can be wrapped in your control, tied up neatly with a bow and leaving you with a small content little life or you can chose the great adventure of throwing your hands up and leaping into the unknown, listening to my still small voice urging you ahead, resulting in dreams and victories only possible when you give me your tiny fist of control and let me breathe life into dreams unimaginable.

Daughter, dare to believe that I will weep when you weep and I will hurt when you, my child, hurt…but I will hold you through it if you let me, so that your heart, that has now experienced the pain, hurt, fear, and joys can be prepared to serve and live and dream without limit in the great story I am writing for you. So you can then use the strength gained to walk alongside and shoulder the burden of others in those pains and hurts.

You get to choose to step up and be part of a generation of change. To no longer shrink back and let others take your dreams. YOU get to choose to be a woman of boldness and courage, to face the insecurities, tear through the walls of fear and feelings of unworthiness and grasp hold with all your might the miracles God wants to do with you and use as the vision and example to others.   Your choosing to jump gets to be an open testimony to those around you and in the moments when you “fail” you get to decide what those around you see you do as a result….get up and keep leaping? Or stay defeated on the ground and miss out on what was waiting just beyond the next bend.

I am not calling you to live in the safety and comfort of the fluff that settles in a cloud over your culture, I am not calling you to just get by and do the minimum so you can check off a list the little things you accomplished in your own strength. NO.

I am calling you to a recklessly abandoned, relentlessly passionate, overwhelmingly out of your control adventure that will blow your mind.

I am challenging you to act on those small nudges you feel from me without hesitation, taking the risk of failure and defeat….knowing without a doubt that no matter what the world may say, you are walking in victory, because you are Mine. You are moving. You are living. And you are choosing to not just live safe, but to live free and alive.   Daughter, you get to begin new. You get to choose today to start a new way of living. A new way of shining my light…no longer from the cracks in your fists holding tight to the safety and comfort of control, but instead bursting from every inch of your body and soul.




“Let’s be women unafraid to step into our role as His children, let’s own that role and carry the responsibility of what comes with it….being living examples, modern day Esthers, Marys, Lydias, Sarahs, Ruths….Let’s continue the legacy they began.”

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  • Hannah February 18, 2015 at 6:05 pm

    Amazing. Just…everything that I’ve been thinking/praying/dreaming/writing is right here in this post. Thank you.

    • agirlikeme
      agirlikeme February 18, 2015 at 10:16 pm

      Thank you for you sweet words. Keep dreaming, thinking and writing! Be that bold girl God created you to be. Un-afraid of failure

  • Desiree February 18, 2015 at 7:21 pm

    Great post today! Thank You!!!

    • agirlikeme
      agirlikeme February 18, 2015 at 10:17 pm

      Thanks for reading! We love hearing back from our readers…it makes us feel more like a community and connected to the other side of the screen

  • A Worn Girl February 18, 2015 at 8:56 pm

    One word: WOW. Beautifully written, Kelsey! Your words stick, have meaning…especially through the view-point you used. I’d like to see more posts like this on AGLM! <3

    • agirlikeme
      agirlikeme February 18, 2015 at 10:18 pm

      Thank you for your constant encouragement and presence. We love hearing feed back!!

  • Emily February 19, 2015 at 12:44 am

    This is so great and much needed! Thank you Kelsey for writing this!

    • agirlikeme
      agirlikeme February 19, 2015 at 9:56 pm

      Thank you Emily! We love hearing our readers responses!

  • Joanna February 19, 2015 at 12:59 am

    Kelsey, thank you so much for this. I am just in the middle of waiting to hear back from a job that will take me overseas to Japan for a year to teach in public schools in August. I love cultures and find such beauty in diversity but I have been overwhelmed with fear and anxiety about this position. I know that God wants me there and I have a feeling that he will send me there through this position but the prospect of uprooting myself from my community and family and culture is terrifying. I had asked my small group to be praying for me as I continue to process all of this … Praying specifically for reasurrance and encouragement. THIS WAS EXACTLY IT! I really felt like every word was written specifically for me. I have pasted it in my journal so I’ll have it even when I go overseas.

    Thank you for your words of encouragement that clearly stem from your love for Christ.

    • agirlikeme
      agirlikeme February 19, 2015 at 10:01 pm

      Wow Joanna. What I would do to sit across from you over coffee. You seem to have a very similar heart for adventure, culture, and a greater world experience. But with all of that comes a lot of other sacrifices, fears, and challenges. Don’t let those keep you from moving. Obviously we must listen to God’s voice calling us to go…but when He does…GO. Even if it’s the hardest year of your life, the reward and experience you will have is worth it. I love hearing how God uses one girl’s journey with facing the risks and jumping towards dreams (me) to bring another girl to the same confirmation. It’s something God likes to remind me of quite often. Shoot me an email if you will be blogging while you are there. I love keeping up with other risk taking, adventurous living girls :) Much love and prayers on this new season! ~Kels

  • Olivia February 19, 2015 at 5:02 am

    This felt like God speaking to me.

    • agirlikeme
      agirlikeme February 19, 2015 at 10:02 pm

      Me too girl, me too ha. Sometimes we just need to extra reminder and nudge to remember what our role is as daughters.

  • hopeinhim February 19, 2015 at 9:08 pm

    Beautiful. I really needed to hear this today.

    • agirlikeme
      agirlikeme February 19, 2015 at 10:03 pm

      SO glad it was encouraging. We all need reminders, this was just a written form of mine.

  • Meg February 21, 2015 at 11:11 pm

    Woah woah woah ! This was incredibly encouraging and exactly what I needed to hear :) Recently I chose to go to university in my home town and I’ve been discontent with my choice to stay at home and it’s felt like a “failure” on my part. Everyday when I don’t live like I think God wants me to I’ve been labelling it as a “failure” and its felt like so much pressure! But reading this gives me crazy hope because I’ve been pressing into God and reading it again here on this blog just spurs me on to keep on believing and trusting in Him despite not knowing at all what I’m doing. Thank you so much Kelsey for your beautiful words :) I love how we are just as loved as Ruth and Mary are and that even our small dreams God can multiply and use beyond what we can imagine. Crazy stuff 😀

  • Bethany February 22, 2015 at 4:19 am

    I just sent off an email to you before reading this, and this is definitely relevant to some of the things I’m dealing with right now. So encouraging; thank you!

  • Elina February 22, 2015 at 11:49 am

    Wow!!…just what i wanted to hear today…it was like God replying back to my anxieties and fears i was battling with…thanks Kelsey:-)

  • Sarah February 23, 2015 at 5:04 pm

    I love the encouragement you just infused us with. It spoke to my heart as I’m wanting to step out more and not be afraid of failing, not being good enough, etc. but instead trusting God to use my risks, my willingness, my obedience, my life to encourage and point others to Jesus. Thank you!

  • Emily February 24, 2015 at 6:30 pm

    It has been a long morning and I’ve been trying to cling to the Lord throughout it and this spoke life into my heart. Thank you, thank you, thank you! Forever thankful for the way the Lord orchestrates the timing of things.

  • Jane February 26, 2015 at 7:40 am

    Whoa! I love this post so much! Thank you for giving God your time and allowing Him to speak through you. I don’t think you ladies realize how much your writing encourages us. I really do appreciate what you all do. ♡

  • Gabriela February 28, 2015 at 8:25 pm

    God knew what he was doing when he spoke to you to write this post. After every sentence I had to stop and wipe the tears , because I knew that it was the Holy Spirit talking to me. Thank you for this! Thank you for allowing Him to speak through you, may you be a blessing always! I hope one day to meet you ladies, next time you are in Brazil (yes, South America ) be sure to stop by the beach !
    God bless!

  • Mary March 17, 2015 at 1:04 pm

    I just read this post for the first time. It made me very emotional. Thank you for this beautiful reminder, and for the amazing challenge. I’ve been struggling with a few things in the passed couple weeks, this is such great encouragement. Thank you, Kelsey. God Bless!