More Goodbye’s for 2015

December 9, 2015


As you already know, there are lot of changes happening at A Girl Like Me. Change is hard but can also be really exciting and a time for so much growth!

We are sad to see Steph and Kelsey go, but really excited for the plans and dreams they are both pursuing. There are also GREAT additions to come, which you will hear about NEXT week, but for now, they wanted to say goodbye, so instead of explaining for them, I will let you hear from them directly…


From Steph:

When I woke up this morning, I did not expect to be writing this post.
In fact, just this weekend I was talking with someone about writing for A Girl Like Me, encouraging them to check it out.

I had lots of plans for this next year and the redemptive stories I would get to share with you… surely, after the chaos of this year redemption was on it’s way, and those will be the stories I write about.

Or so I thought.

I wrote briefly about this year and all of it’s turmoil in this post.
But for the most part, the words just haven’t come, even my journal has remained mostly untouched.  As a writer, this has been difficult.  As a blogger, this is not fair to you.

When the challenge came for me to decide if committing another year to AGLM was wise it hurt- the good kind of hurt.  It was the calling out of truth, you cannot do everything… and we notice.

Sweet girls,
I hope you surround yourself with people who notice when you are struggling.
And I pray they call you out on it.
And I pray you receive it well when they do.

This morning during the cool dawn of my workout, the instructor shared these words,

“Change is not something that we should fear. Rather, it is something that we should welcome. For without change, nothing in this world would ever grow or blossom, and no one in this world would ever move forward to become the person they’re meant to be.

– unknown”

I laid on the mat and cried the big, silent, tears.

I am so thankful for AGLM.
For what I have learned, and how it has grown me.
For the women it has introduced me to.
For each of you,
You encourage me, challenge me, push me to do better writing and better living, and I’m thankful for that.

This next season will be different.
I will still write, when the words come, here.
But I won’t be writing for AGLM regularly.

Know that my heart for you girls is good….

my love for this ministry is huge…

and my desire to see Christ in this chaos is overwhelming.

Here’s to 2016 and all it will bring!

– Steph



From Kelsey:

My sweet friends,

What a journey this has been. From my very first guest post about mine and Matt’s relationship to posts about tattoos and childhood experiences…you have all given me a place to not just share my story, but process and grow in it as we have all walked alongside each other.  A Girl Like Me has been such a beautiful part of my journey and I have been overwhelmed watching so many of you take the passion and dreams Heather poured into this safe place and pass them on, using them in your own lives to reach out and walk alongside so many other girls in need of community.    My role with A Girl Like Me has been to be vulnerable and share with you ladies, offer up my experiences, failures, joys, and sorrows as a place for you to find encouragement, accountability, and challenge….but who am I kidding?  You all have been that for me.  You have shown nothing but grace and understanding when I’ve had to take breaks due to life’s obstacles, losing my mom, facing life as a new wife, and weaving through the mess of the everyday.  We came together right in a huge new season for me and writing here has often felt like writing out the words for you to read that God is wanting me to hear.

Thank you for being a safe place; for being such beautiful examples of authenticity and grace.

I know there are a lot of changes happening on here, but it’s the change that can bring fresh perspectives and fresh life.   I have spent the last 10+ years of my life working jobs that support everyone else in their dreams. I’ve served and supported and put so many of my own passions aside, buried in the guilt of wanting to meet other’s needs and AGLM was a wonderful outlet and place to let some of those passions gain new life.  I’m starting another new chapter as we end this year and Matt and I are not only trying to bring back to life so many life giving, creative parts of ourselves that have been buried, but we are also walking into the best adventure of becoming parents through adoption.   It’s one of those forks in the road that, while not always easy, is necessary to let go of some things in order to free up the time and energy God needs from us to pursue the next step.  So while there is a part of me that is sad to have to say “goodbye” to being consistently involved here, another part of me is so excited. Excited for you guys and excited for me. I’m excited to see what the fresh leadership and new voices have to offer you all in your seasons of life and I’m excited for me to start another adventure and take a season to breathe and find a part of me that I’ve lost. I’m so excited to take the time needed to prepare to go from just “wife” to “mom”.

Thank you for welcoming me with such big, open arms. I love all the girls on this AGLM team and am so excited for them to start dreaming up new, big things for you all.  I will definitely be keeping up with the community, but this time from the reader’s side.   Matt and I will also be sharing updates on our adoption journey over at my blog and would love to share that new season with you as well.

Much love to each and every one of you.  Thank you for being YOU!

– Kelsey

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  • A Worn Girl December 9, 2015 at 11:55 am

    I have to admit I’m terribly sad you will both not be blogging anymore on AGLM, but another part of me understands. Your posts have had a great impact in my life, (especially Kelsey’s). But I’m glad you’re on to other seasons in life. You both have helped cultivate this wonderful online community and for that I’m eternally grateful! I would still love to meet you both one day! <3

    • agirlikeme
      agirlikeme January 12, 2016 at 1:46 pm

      Agreed! We are thankful for every person who has helped grow our little family- including you!

  • Desiree December 9, 2015 at 12:39 pm

    I have to say of all 3 ladies leaving in the next year I’m the most sad about Kelsey. Don’t get me wrong I will miss Heather and Steph also. I have loved seeing her life unfold through her personal blog and in AGLM and have been excited and sad with her. I will keep reading Kelsey’s blog to see the next step in her and Matt’s life, I’m so excited for you two. Good luck to Heather, Steph, and Kelsey I’ll be praying for you all and for God’s plans for you. You will be missed! I am excited to see what Gad has for AGLM in the next year and I’m excited for some new additions!

    • agirlikeme
      agirlikeme January 12, 2016 at 1:45 pm

      Desiree, thanks for your prayers! They mean the world to us.
      Beautiful things ahead,
      the AGLM ladies

  • Katie December 9, 2015 at 1:42 pm

    Aww guys. This post makes me happy – sad. I’m sad you’re leaving.. I’m gonna miss hearing from you guys. But I’ve seen good in the changes God’s brought to AGLM before, and I know He’ll do it again. It’s His ministry to begin with :)
    To Steph: My heart hurts for you. I know what it is to have a year full of chaos & to long for the redeeming of the mess. I’m praying that 2016 could be a year of redemption for you, and I’m praying for so much patience for you. Cuz redemption is a long journey, but it does happen :) Keep your head in the fight, girl <3
    To Kelsey: I'm SO excited to hear you're adopting! Adoption holds a tender place in my heart and I love watching people's stories unfold :) I'll definitely be watching your blog for updates. Praying that God gives you a super abundance of grace for the changes that this part of your life will bring <3
    The giving you ladies have done here, speaking truth and being honest about hard things, has been a source of courage in my life. Thank you :)

    • agirlikeme
      agirlikeme January 12, 2016 at 1:44 pm

      Thanks for your prayers, Katie!!

  • Michelle December 9, 2015 at 3:37 pm

    AGLM has no doubt seen change over the years, which to me and my little mind sometimes hurts a little too much, but oh, how I want to learn to love change in that same breath. In the moment, change seems to be overwhelming. But I love that quote.
    Steph and Kelsey, I love you ladies and how you’ve led us with such grace and redemption and authenticity. AGLM has no doubt played an enormous role in my life about living that way myself. I hope and pray that God guides you two with wisdom and peace. And Kelsey, I have loved so many things you’ve had to say over the years, and I recently heard your news of adoption and I’m so excited for you!! I truly hope 2016 can be a year of change for the good for us all.
    Love you all so so so much!!!!!

    • agirlikeme
      agirlikeme January 12, 2016 at 1:43 pm

      We appreciate your sweet words, Michelle.
      Thanks for investing your heart with us.
      Change is constant- so is grace. :)
      Much love,

  • Tiffany December 9, 2015 at 5:26 pm

    I will definitely miss you guys, soo much!!! Thank you Heather, Kelsey, and Steph for your parts in AGLM. You guys were the community I strived for during my darkest times. when I felt like God abandoned me you just so happened to write about how He is always there and in control. I am so blessed that God led me here. Thank you for letting Christ shine through your life, words, and honesty. Each one of you ladies are such an inspiration on what it means to be a Godly woman! I’m so excited to where God leads all of you guys!

    • agirlikeme
      agirlikeme January 12, 2016 at 1:41 pm

      Thanks for sharing your heart, Tiffany!
      Beautiful things are ahead!
      You’ll never know how special it is to us that you’re sticking with us!

  • Leah December 9, 2015 at 5:38 pm

    To be honest I saw this title and my jaw and heart dropped. My first thought was, “No! More? Already?!” I’m really sad to see you girls go! I did not see this coming, but I totally understand and I love you both. I’ve been so blessed by you ladies, and I’ll really miss your posts. They have really resonated with me, especially yours, Kelsey. Aw, man, I’m gonna miss you people! Goodbyes are so hard.
    This next year is going to be full of change, I believe, but I believe it will be a year of growth, of good change, for all of us! We will blossom in the pain! Like Heather said, “We are family. No matter how far apart we may be, we will still always be there for each other.” You will be in my thoughts, my prayers, my heart forever. As Sirius Black so wisely stated, “The ones who loves us never really leave us.”
    You can never really leave us. I will always love you.
    This coming year, I believe God will do great things in each of us! Thank you so much for all you’ve done! I love every single one of you on the AGLM team, the ones that are staying and the ones that are saying see ya and the ones that are coming. I love you all soooo much.

    • agirlikeme
      agirlikeme January 12, 2016 at 1:40 pm

      Thanks for your support through all the change, Leah. Having friends like you to virtually grow and walk through life with is so helpful and wonderful!
      Change is hard sometimes, but for the good. We will miss Heather, Kelsey, and Steph writing, but they’re always part of the family!