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October 21, 2013

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  • Finn St. Clair October 21, 2013 at 10:24 am

    amazing… thanks so much!

  • Hannah October 21, 2013 at 10:34 am

    I have never heard Modesty explained that way. I always try to dress appropriately but hearing it explained that way was really beneficial. So thank you. You are really helping me in my walk with Christ so thank you so much.

    • Karen Jarnagin November 3, 2013 at 7:04 am

      Thank you for speaking the truth to women. As a woman who made all those mistakes growing up, I so wish I would have known this when I was young because I would not have to look back with so much regret.

  • Carrie Schuessler October 21, 2013 at 1:30 pm

    Awesome. This video thing has been really powerful…consider keeping it going after October :)

  • Never Alone October 21, 2013 at 2:53 pm

    you are so cool :) I really, really like this post. I never really had a lot of personal convictions about modesty (which I guess is shocking considering that I’m a mennonite.. hehe) but mostly the reason I dressed modestly is cuz I had to. but this post… it really puts it all in perspective. it gives me a reason to dress modestly and live “modestly” with my attitude and the way I act. it’s a good reminder to me that the way I dress can reflect or contradict my faith. thanks so much, Heather :)

  • Isabella October 21, 2013 at 3:23 pm

    Well Heather, that was very well spoken. Very helpful; you need to keep making more of these, and I think you should get the others to post a few as well!! Great job!!!!

  • Leah October 21, 2013 at 4:38 pm

    This is so great! Thanks!

  • Andrina October 21, 2013 at 7:18 pm

    I loved this vlog. It was so good! Would love to see more vlogs in the future or even podcasts!

  • wavesofgrace2013 October 21, 2013 at 9:55 pm

    Thank you for sharing–this is thought provoking, challenging, and encouraging! Just this past week I was struggling with comparing myself to other ladies who seem ‘more fashionable’ or ‘more fit’ than I am. But “looking good for” or “looking better than” others is not the point; representing Christ and being content in Him is. I do have a question though, does scripture anywhere call men to modesty too? I know that usually women are the ones more focused on trying to look good for others, but it’s important for everyone to represent Christ in humility.

    • A Worn Girl October 22, 2013 at 12:43 pm

      A good question that I’d like to know too. Also, Heather; you talk a lot about submission in the character of a woman. You almost make it seem like women can’t have a say or should never QUESTION authority…That’s the part that confused me a little.
      Thank you for your time and the blogs you’re doing.

  • debmayhew October 22, 2013 at 9:15 am

    Pretty sure I’m older than you, but you gave me a new perspective on the age-old battle for beauty. I’ve always wanted my inner self have that “unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit”, but it stands to reason that I never will as long as my focus remains on the outer adornment of my hair, body and clothes. As a mom to three young daughters, it’s my job to teach them not just by words, but also by example. Thank you for the loving reminder.

  • Catherine October 22, 2013 at 2:08 pm

    Well done, Heather. I grew up in a very conservative background and had to re-learn some things about modesty and battle my parents a little when I became an adult (actually I still kind of do and I’m 28).

    My biggest battle right now is allowing myself to be appropriately attractive because I don’t believe myself to be any sort of beautiful. But I’m realizing, slowly, that that isn’t a great testimony either. Been single this whole time, there must not be anything attractive about me.

    Very hard for me to believe God sees me as valuable and attractive (on all levels). I believe that really comes out more than I like it to.

  • Hosanna Shields October 22, 2013 at 4:18 pm

    Thank you so much for this Heather!! I really love the way that you do a video blog for us even if you don’t want to. I really like the way that you shared your heart without being judgmental! Thank you! WE ARE DAUGHTERS OF THE KING!

  • Ariel October 22, 2013 at 6:29 pm

    Heather, thank you so much for this post! This message was a huge help to me. :) As a sister in Christ who’s also living in a fallen world, I know how hard the temptation can be to dress for attention, especially when you know that society desires women to do that… But submission to Christ means we’re called to be warriors against the standards of this world. Thank you for that reminder!

    Also, Catherine, I saw your post and I wanted to say this to you (whether or not you see it :). From a loving sister in Christ: Please don’t ever let other people’s actions towards you or the power of appearance deceive you that you are not a beautiful daughter of God Almighty–you are. If you have breath in your lungs and light in your eyes, then you are human and God made you, with so much love and attention and care and thought. You’re the most beautiful thing in the world, carefully shaped and created and woven together, just like Psalm 139 says! God hollowed out the oceans with his hands, and he molded you to be exactly the person you are, physical “flaws” and all. But the real secret is that these “flaws” have nothing to do with whether we’re beautiful or not! NOTHING can stop beauty from shining out of a girl wrapped in the love and sacrifice of Christ–not her height, weight, bra size, acne, speech impediments, no standard that the world puts before her. Those standards crumble when God shines. Satan will strive and labor to wrap you into thinking that beauty is found in what people think or say or what you believe because he knows what a humongous and crippling lie it is. But it’s not true. You’re beautiful because of Who made you, not how you look, and you will always be beautiful to Christ and in Christ, and also to me. :) You are a princess, love. Hold your head up high. <3

    • Catherine October 23, 2013 at 12:29 pm

      Thank you so much for your kind sweet words. Acne and speech problems, you got me there! As well as a few other problems. But you’re right, I am God’s child and I’m beautiful to Him and the more I believe that the more of Him will come through. Thank you again for your sweet words. :-)

  • Sarah W. October 22, 2013 at 9:06 pm

    You are stunning.
    Thank you so much Heather!
    Please keep these video blogs coming. I love it, and so does everyone else! You help me so much.
    Much love & God bless.

  • Kiki October 24, 2013 at 9:28 pm

    Heather, thank you so much for doing these video blog posts. I feel like I am so much more engaged through the medium of video. I love it!

  • my name is not important December 7, 2013 at 6:55 pm

    Not sure if you actually read these, but thank you so much for writing this. Going to a really secular college, I think I sometimes become anesthetized to seeing less modest clothing, and thus it all becomes relative. It’s hard to balance looking good and being modest and remembering it’s not about you. Thank you for putting it all back into perspective. My favorite part was about being a representing Christ and NOT toeing the line.

    And thank you for not saying we should just dress to make sure boys don’t stumble, because I’ve always had a big problem with that – I dress for me, not to please or displease boys, and I want to be modest because I am proud of what I represent, not because I care what the boys think.

    But I will say that shaming girls who aren’t modest enough like a filthy pig is really problematic – not going into it here but if you said we should be modest because WE are PROUD to represent Christ, but that doesn’t mean we should judge others and call them filthy pigs and “slut shame”. They represent themselves, and if they are happy with their representation, or feel empowered because of it – then good. Modesty is an “inner” decision rather than an “outer” one – we represent ourselves and Christ, but we shouldn’t judge others.