Faith, God, Spiritual Life, Suffering

Get Over Yourself

February 4, 2015

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We’ve been friends a while, haven’t we? We’ve walked through life together, sharing our secrets, our hurts and our joys. So, because we are friends, friends who love each other, it’s time to start getting real with one another. You ready friends?

It’s February. By now you’ve had enough time to make resolutions and not keep them. You’ve had time to set goals and miss them. Time to seek freedom from sin only to be lured back into its tempting grip. I can imagine that for those of you who are in this place, you’re probably telling yourself things like this:

“How can God ever forgive me?”

“Why can’t I get better?”

“I’ll always be stuck like this.”

“I should just give up. God has totally abandoned me.” 

I get it. You’re in a dark place. You feel like you’re at the bottom of a deep well with no possible way out. You want hope. You want a way out of this place and into a better life. For those of you who might be feeling this way, as your friend, I have something to tell you.

Get. Over. Yourself.

I know that sounds harsh. I know that it’s not the flowery, grace-filled, sunshine and roses affirmation you want to hear. But listen my sweet friend, it’s the truth.

In order to move forward, move past and move on from whatever it is that is keeping us from freedom and a closeness to Christ, we first have to learn to get over ourselves. We have to realize that we are not the exception to the rule. When Christ said that he died for ALL mankind, you are included in the all. When he said that His death has granted us freedom from the stronghold of death and sin, again, YOU are included in that. Stop thinking like you aren’t.

When we begin to tell ourselves that our sins are too great or too big or too bad for God to ever forgive, we minimize Him and make much of ourselves. We are saying that God can’t overcome our strongholds, because we are just too messed up for the almighty Savior of the world to redeem. It’s not in humility that we say that God could never forgive us, but rather our pride.

Listen closely, you’re not at war with God. The moment He took His last breath on the cross and broke the chains of hell and death was the exact moment that the chasm caused by sin was filled and your battle with Jesus finally found peace. Live in that peace. Stop telling yourself that your chance for freedom is too far gone. Stop looking to yourself and focus on Jesus.

Paul reminds us in Galatians 5:1 that “It was for freedom that Christ set us free; therefore keep standing firm and do not be subject again to a yoke of slavery.” Did you hear that? You are FREE. So as Paul says, stand firm in that freedom and don’t make yourself a slave anymore.

Ladies, let’s make this the year we finally learn to get over ourselves. The year we stop glorifying our guilt and not Jesus. Let’s be women who stop making much of our our sin and instead live in how much we are loved by the Father. Let’s not just say we want to be free, but instead live as the free people we are.

Remember how I said we’re friends? Well friend, get over yourself and I’ll do the same. And together, as friends, we can make this new year one of hope and peace.

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  • A Worn Girl February 4, 2015 at 5:04 pm

    I am learning. It’s hard. Thank you for the direct encouragement; you’re a good friend even though we’ve never met.

  • Janette Peggins February 4, 2015 at 5:15 pm

    Thank you so much, Heather! Today I woke up feeling defeated and felt like I could never overcome a struggle I’ve been fighting for a few months now. Until I finally prayed to God for him to be my strength and help me fight. I’m learning to stop looking at the fact that I keep failing and rest that God is my strength. This is exactly what I needed today. Thank you, friend!

  • His Beloved February 4, 2015 at 5:45 pm

    Heather, Thanks so much. I don’t even know what else to say. This was so timely. I needed to hear this. Thank you. I love you.

  • Chrissy D. February 4, 2015 at 6:51 pm

    Thank you so much for posting this! You always have the words that need to be spoken into my life and say it in such a way that clicks in my head!

  • Katrina February 4, 2015 at 7:22 pm

    You have beautiful words & a beautiful heart, friend. This is exactly the message that friends need to give each other from time to time, and I needed this right now, so thanks :) I love your perspective.

    • agirlikeme
      agirlikeme February 15, 2015 at 9:11 pm

      Thanks Katrina! -Heather

  • Abbie February 5, 2015 at 8:15 pm

    I appreciate this, Heather. It is an encouragement to me to be reminded of the greatness of my Savior. Thank you for this loving kick in the pants.

  • Elizabeth February 8, 2015 at 3:15 am

    Thank you for this reminder! It’s an eye-opener for me that I need to get up and do something about what I’m dealing with. Grateful for the shove in the right direction. (:

    • agirlikeme
      agirlikeme February 15, 2015 at 9:10 pm

      You bet! Sometimes a good shove is all we need. 😉 -Heather

  • Jessika February 12, 2015 at 1:55 pm

    Amen!!!