God, Relationships, Spiritual Life

Because You Are

June 12, 2012

I am your stereotypical female. I’m the girl that can make the tiniest issue seem like the world is about to be over. I’m the girl that cries every time I see those hallmark commercials at mothers day where the old lady gets a sweet card from the neighbor family so she doesn’t feel alone. And I am that girl who every time Mr. Darcey tells Elizabeth Bennet in Pride and Prejudice that he loves her, my heart skips a beat. I am an emotional being, bound to live out my days being driven and motivated by the feelings that fuel me. Not always do they have the best outcomes, but they are there none the less. So what happens when those feelings go away? What happens when life, or more importantly our walk with Christ, becomes something void of emotion? What happens when everything that relates to me and Jesus just comes up feeling….numb?

So many of you have commented or emailed in the last few weeks about this very idea. This idea that you are or have felt like you cannot feel God and you are uncertain as to what is wrong. Many of you feel as though it means God isn’t there or He isn’t listening. And many of you wonder if you’ll ever get back to that place where you felt God so strongly. So let’s tackle this then, shall we?

Feelings at their deepest part are not a constant thing. They ebb and flow based on the environment around us and the circumstances we encounter. They are temporary. They are fleeting. Knowing this, why should our feelings be something to trust? If I’m having a great day and genuinely happy and then get fired from my job, my feelings of happiness will change. The same is true in this situation. Our walk with God is like any other relationship in that it has peaks and valleys. There are times of great joy and there are times of great sorrow. Times we are close and times we are distant. If I was solely led by my feelings to guide my relationship with God I would waver from loving him to hating him quite frequently. And if He were any other relationship, I’d probably end it and walk away due to the instability of my emotions. So this leads me to a question.

Is being able to feel God a requirement for following God?

Scripture, especially in the Old testament, is littered with men and women struggling because they don’t feel God’s presence in their lives. David talks about it in the Psalms. Job cries out to his friends about it. Nehemiah…Joshua…Saul….and so on and so on…. But what all of these people have in common is one thing. Even when they didn’t sense God’s nearness, it did not stop them from continuing to pursue, follow and serve God. If anything, they sought harder. They knew that just because they couldn’t feel God, it never meant He left, it just may have meant that He was giving them the chance to understand the joy of seeking him.

Take Elijah for instance. In 1 Kings Elijah has suffered greatly and is feeling emotionally undone. He is crying out to God in his pain. God decides to encourage Elijah so He guides Elijah to stand on a mountain so Elijah can “feel” God as He passes by. There first came a huge wind that shattered rocks, then a massive earthquake, and then came a fire-but God was in none of these places. It wasn’t until Elijah felt a gentle whisper that he fell to his knees and saw that the Lord was there. Do you see? God is not always going to be present in your life sending your heart into a violent earthquake of emotion. Sometimes, he is off in the distance, silently whispering to you “Come to me sweet child. I’m right here.”

So what do we do? If our feelings are what drive us, but their inconsistancy cannot be trusted, how do we seek God in the emotional desert? The answer is simple: WE KEEP SEEKING. We use the seasons of numbness as a summoning by the Lord to draw near. Not because of the giddy-twitterpated-warm and fuzzies we think we’ll get at the end of the road, but simply because He is God. And because He is God, He deserves our affections. He owes us nothing but the sheer pleasure of being allowed to be in fellowship with Him in the first place. He is God..we are nothing. Yet this God…he aches to relate to us. So even if we never get the joy of feeling Him ever again, we should simply consider it a joy that we can be near Him at all. Because although we cannot feel it…He never leaves us. Never has, never will.

I often find that sometimes music can express the words my heart longs to say but can never quite get out. Below is a song I feel does just that. It’s chorus says exactly what we need to be feeling when these moments of numbness come upon us:

Father, I praise You because You are

Jesus, I love You because You are

Spirit, I worship You because You are

And if no one can see that Your love’s moving me

I worship You still and forever will

Because You are

So let us follow Him not for the joy or the happiness or the sorrow or the pain that He may make us feel. Let us following Him simply because He IS.

Listen to: Because You Are

Points of reflection: 1Kings 19:9-13 Hebrews 13:5-6

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  • Kelli June 12, 2012 at 9:40 am

    Beautiful song! Who sings it??

    • Sarah June 12, 2012 at 11:30 am

      I think this is EverybodyDuck– which is super old skool, but I LOVE this song!

      • agirlikemee June 13, 2012 at 7:02 pm

        It is a band called Everybodyduck. They aren’t around anymore, but a great group!

      • sarah June 13, 2012 at 7:25 pm

        Yeah– they were great! I grew up going to Hume Lake, and they led our worship every year. Was really fun to hear them!

  • Emily June 12, 2012 at 10:04 am

    That all reminded me of a song called “Have Your Way” by Britt Nicole.

  • Salena June 12, 2012 at 10:36 am

    Thank you so much for this encouragement!! :)

  • Katie June 12, 2012 at 11:04 am

    This is just what I needed to hear :) thank you!

  • sarahsci June 12, 2012 at 11:39 am

    Whenever I’ve felt far from God, or void of His presence, I usually try to examine my prayer life. It isn’t always the case, there are definitely times that there is something else going on in my life that keeps me feeling far from God. A Lot of the time though, it’s that I’ve stopped talking to Him. I’ve stopped asking for His help, and praising him. I tend to be a “Pray like Jesus is just a friend I hang out with” girl. Usually when I need to pray the most, I don’t, and that’s when I tend to feel far away.

  • Rebekah June 12, 2012 at 11:48 am

    This is exactly how I’ve been feeling lately. And it’s been so awesome because, God has been teaching me to trust, and not to just depend on feelings. And to know that He is near because He promised us, “I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.” It’s so encouraging to know that I’m not alone. =) Thanks again!!!

  • kathryn June 12, 2012 at 1:09 pm

    This is so encouraging! Thank You Heather!! I’ve been struggling quite a bit with this lately.

  • Rachel June 12, 2012 at 5:11 pm

    Thank you for sharing, whichever of you two wrote this out.

  • Madeline June 12, 2012 at 5:16 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing! This reminds me a lot of my favorite verse; Jeremiah 29:13, “You will seek me and find me if you seek me with all your heart.”

  • Anna June 12, 2012 at 10:07 pm

    Thanks for sharing. I love your blog and I know I relate to your blogs and I imagine many other girls (and guys) can too. I am on my own journey of seeking Him and sometimes the silence is deafening but I am still seeking. All i know it life is tough and we can’t- and are not meant to feel like we are all alone fending for ourselves.

  • Kali June 12, 2012 at 10:18 pm

    Amazing song and post love u girls!

  • OrganicElle June 12, 2012 at 10:35 pm

    Love this post!

  • Juliyah Wright June 12, 2012 at 10:57 pm

    Okaayeeeeeeee. I’m back. :-)
    How is everyone in Tan Land doing???

    Hi Heather. Hi Kelly :-)

    I personally feel we as Christians are entering into a ” time”, that a shift is occurring in the spirit relm and in this age we are exiting now and headed in to Tribulation period.

    The call for absolute getiing in the tank and boltening down the hatch and being closer than ever to our Commander in Chief ( Jesus),is here.

    The 10 virgins….5 were foolish 5 were wise.parable…

    Mathew 25:1- read on..
    Warns us of the consequences of not having the oil already bought way before now…and not having the wicks trimmed and lit and ready when He calls us. Why the need for the lanterns or oil lamps???

    I believe because it is going to be a time of great darkness upon the whole earth & if we are wallowing in ease and sin and bickering and self and world and the flesh and worries of am I going to find a mate before Jesus comes back STUFF then, yea we will not be ready and that call will go out to the virgins who are ready with their lamps and the door will close.

    Yea. satin and his forces have drawn up battle plans in the relm of wicked principalities and have launched war on us. They really didn’t need much as we already are drowning in our fleshes desires and won’t even so much as throw our TV’s out and get into that shelter of The most High God!,, so why i think we feel the waves of numbness… scripture warns us also :” My people perish for LACK of knowledge.”

    Know His voice. Know the sound of that trumpet.

    Because there will be many of the church or sliding Christians who will not be ready but be wallowing in sexual sins and perversions right up until the door shuts on the ark of this age!

    So as it was in the ays of Noah,so shall it be in the last days….read great of this verse.

  • Juliyah Wright June 12, 2012 at 11:03 pm

    p.s. I wonder what our brides dresses will look like in heaven???

    And what will Jesus be wearing????


  • Janette June 12, 2012 at 11:03 pm

    That’s just like me. If I’m in a room with people crying I’m most likely cry too. If people are laughing I am too. The one thing about it that I don’t like is I feel my walk with Jesus is just emotions. I don’t wanted it that way. This post helps a whole lot! Showing that God is not far for you even if it feels like it. I’m really thankful for you and Kelly writing these posts.

  • Allison Bentley June 17, 2012 at 7:40 pm

    Thanks Heather (and Kelly) :) I enjoy reading every post. I am also using this particular post to help me prepare for my SV bible study this week!!! love you! xox

  • Haley Shields June 20, 2012 at 12:19 am

    Oh my. How much I relate. Especially to the beginning. I make the littlest mess up into this big crying, crazy mess! Mr. Darcey…Oh dear (: HA! Just thinking about it makes my heart skip a beat. 😛 I’m VERY emotional. VERY.