Redemption, Spiritual Life

Gotta Secret, Gonna Keep It

April 29, 2016
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  When I was seven I accidentally pooped in my neighbors pool and tried to blame it on their dog. In eighth grade I used to pretend I had my period because I was too afraid to admit to the other girls in my class that I hadn’t gotten it yet. One time in college I snuck into an abandon construction zone so I could make out with my boyfriend and not get caught by our strict Bible college. I once sent a hate letter to a guys pastor telling him what a liar and bad youth intern he was because I was mad that said guy stole money from me when we were dating. (I totally had a woman scorned moment) I chipped part of my front tooth from trying to open a nail polish bottle with my mouth. Secrets. We all have em. As much as I’d like to think of myself as a pretty open book, I still know that there are many things I choose to keep locked away. God forbid if anyone knew because then I would totally be uncovered for the awkward, vindictive, hot mess of a woman that I am. So I keep

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Community, Faith

Courage, Dear Heart

April 27, 2016
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“Whatever we learn to do, we learn by actually doing it. By doing just acts, we come to be just. By doing self-controlled acts, we come to be self-controlled, and by doing brave acts, we come to be brave.” — Aristotle I never would have thought of myself as someone who is brave. More accurately, someone who possesses great courage. Sure I’ve done cliff diving or ridden that questionable roller coaster- but that was always accompanied with a heavy dose of fear and the prevailing thought of “What the he– am I doing?” So yeah, big fat wuss over here. Did you know that the word courage is actually a heart word? Quick school lesson: (just stick with me here people) but the word courage comes from the Latin word which means heart. In its whole, courage actually means: to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart. And isn’t that what we’re trying to do here? Tell our stories: the hopes, fears and everything in between? To gather our courage and become women who aren’t afraid to be real? Women who know that life is better together out in the open and not in the hidden

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Family, Forgiveness, God, Redemption, Relationships

God is forgiving

April 20, 2016
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Have you ever known that you were loved by someone, but seemed to have a hard time feeling that love?   That may sound confusing but it was definitely the head-to-heart struggle that I had when it came to my relationship with my dad growing up. I always knew he loved me, but I couldn’t help but feel the distance between us. He was a respected businessman and had to travel for work all of the time. He was gone aaaalot. Sometimes 7 months out of a year. Although he was doing it to provide for our family, it slowly started to put him into one specific role – “the provider” – instead of any kind of emotional or relational father that we needed. Everyone saw it happening, and felt it happening, but to me as a little girl I really had no solution to the matter. I couldn’t ask him to leave his job and he was in the position where he had to travel, so…we just accepted it.   That was the secret to making it okay. Just accepting it, and not acting like you care, right? I didn’t need his help or guidance anyway, right? I have

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Faith, God, Relationships, Spiritual Life

God is Ironic

April 13, 2016
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If I ever doubted before that God hears me, I certainly don’t now. Remember when I wrote about how deeply I desire companionship and long to be in love, and how much I’ve prayed for that? Well…God heard me. And He answered. But not quite the way I expected. A couple months ago, a guy I dated in the past (but haven’t talked to in two years) waltzed back into my life. I thought we were just two old friends catching up. Recently, however, it became clear that he was pursuing me. And I didn’t know it. I thought we were just talking. He thought we were “talking.” (It’s hard to believe those two things could be so easily confused…*face-palm*) This guy was a great friend. I have a lot of respect for him, and at one point I really thought I could see myself with him. But when it came down to it, I knew he wasn’t the right guy. So I had to put an end to the relationship that had been developing right under my completely oblivious nose…and walk away. I felt like I had just gone through a break up, in a weird sort of way.

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Faith, God, Spiritual Life

God is the visionary

April 6, 2016
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You know when you plan something in your life to go a certain way, but then God takes it and says, “Nope, I’m taking you somewhere different”… That’s happened to me many times. And it’s happening to me now. I know that God is for me. Even if life doesn’t seem good at the moment, He is using it for my good. I know that God has a very specific and amazing plan for my life. And I know that His plans are always better than my plans. I have had so many times in my life that I’ve learned these things about God, like: In high school I wanted and planned to go to a magnet school so badly that my best friends were going to, but I didn’t get in. I tried out for the volleyball team in high school (I had already been playing volleyball at my previous school), but didn’t make the team. I enrolled at my dream school in NYC the end of my senior year of high school but ended up not receiving the scholarship money I thought I would receive, so I had to go to a university in my home town. One summer in

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Faith, God, Spiritual Life

God is a Farmer

March 30, 2016
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Corndogs and French fries. I was the skinny kid who refused to eat vegetables. I should probably be dead due to the number of frozen hot dogs I’ve consumed. I was so picky about fresh foods that I remember spilling my orange juice on myself one morning in elementary school so I wouldn’t have to drink it. Stubborn? Yes. Extreme? Absolutely. My mom usually keeps books once she reads them and there are about a dozen parenting books in her closet on different methods to get a kid to EAT SOMETHING. Yeah, it was bad. Yeah, I still apologize to her for her having to wonder if her firstborn was going to contract scurvy. Yeah, that’s the disease pirates get after months without fresh fruits and veggies in their diet. Watermelon was her only hope. At a pool party in fifth grade, one of the moms brought out a tray with half a watermelon cut up into slices. I ate the whole thing by myself while the other kids were swimming. Call me a sneaky fox! Something about that bright and juicy fruit had me mesmerized. Then she convinced me that carrots were good for my eyesight so I’d come

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Community, Faith, God, Relationships

God is All-Satisfying

March 23, 2016
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“I have found a desire within myself that no experience in this world can satisfy; the most probable explanation is that I was made for another world.” C.S. Lewis   One thing that I consistently struggle with is unmet expectations.   I have always considered myself to be flexible and adaptable, and although that may be true as far as overseas missions go, I have found myself falling into the trap of unmet expectations for the last couple of years. It is never fun to admit to and one of those “ugly” habits that I wish I didn’t struggle with.   Our expectations are never truly realized until they aren’t met. When things go our way we usually just respond with excitement and joy instead of saying “Oh my goodness! All my unspoken expectations were just met!” Our expectations seem to be realized when our plans don’t go right and when either people or experiences disappoint us. Then we will be quick to realize those specific things we didn’t even know we wanted.   I struggle with not being where I thought I’d be at this stage in my life. I think we can all attest to that in some

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Faith, Fear, God, Relationships, Spiritual Life

God Is Understanding

March 16, 2016
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If you were to ask me what is the one thing that I desire most in life, I would probably tell you about my dream job that would allow me to travel all over the world, drink tea and lattes all day long, and have deep conversations with people…and get paid for it. Or I’d share with you the vacation I have planned to take my family on if one day I find that tree people say money grows on. Or I would rattle off all of the things that make up the perfect life I’ve imagined on Pinterest. And while each of those things certainly rank high on my list (however unlikely they may be 😉 ), there is still one desire that trumps them all…one I tend to keep hidden so deep in my heart because somehow I think if I tell anyone what I wish for, it won’t come true. But really, if I’m completely honest, what my heart longs for more than anything is companionship. Gosh, I just want to be married. I’m almost 23, I’m young and “I have my whole life ahead of me.” But when it seems like everyone around me is falling

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Family, God

God is rich

March 9, 2016
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  I grew up in an out-of-the-ordinary home. My parents are missionaries. We didn’t live overseas, but they have been on mission full-time mainly in Raleigh, NC with a ministry called Cru. Obviously my parents weren’t in it for the money, nor did we ever have an excess amount to spend where we wanted. When I was little, I didn’t understand totally how this all worked.  I didn’t understand why we had to order water every time or split meals, why our house was smaller than most of my friends, and why we were always in money-saving mode. I was never stressed about my needs being met, but I didn’t understand how much my parents were living by faith to what God had called them to do. I didn’t understand that everything we have is the total provision from God till I got older and had to pay for things myself. God not only met our needs because my parents trusted Him, but He also blessed us more than we could have ever imagined. He blessed us Christmas presents and vacations, but he also blessed us with an amazing childhood and community through Cru that I would NEVER trade for any amount of money. It

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God

God Is

March 2, 2016
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Now that we have all shared some of the major stories in our lives, we hope that you feel more connected to us and a part of our community here at A Girl Like Me. We are also so thankful  for the girls that sent their stories in for us to share on the blog. We read every story even if it wasn’t posted, and we are so grateful that you took the time to share that with us! Nina, Chelsea, Ashton and I did NOT have an easy time writing out our story and posting on the blog, so we totally understand how hard it is to share! We are glad to let you in our lives more and also ready to move on as I am sure you are too! :) This leads me to announcing our next series with you… GOD IS. We just spent two months sharing our stories and talking about us… It gets draining!! The purpose of sharing about us is so you get to know us more and trust us more. Even though those were stories about us, God is the one who writes our stories. He is reason we even have a story

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The Friday Overflow, Your Story

AGLM Likes and Links

February 26, 2016
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As we come to the end of Your Story Matters series, we want to leave you with some fun likes and links by each of us that also gives you some insight on what we enjoy and are doing right now! Allison: 1. This website for makeup tutorials. I am going out tonight with my girl friends and I love trying new makeup “looks” when the occasion calls. :) 2. I am so in love with all Anthropologie’s home and decor items. I can’t afford to buy them but I got to be a part of an Anthropologie styled shoot. And I am hosting TWO wedding showers this weekend, one for my best friend, and one for my sister in law! Ah! 3. I subscribed to Yummly for awesome recipes sent to my email. I love trying new recipes for dinner, and it’s easier than spending time looking through Pinterest. 4. I have been drinking hot tea every night. I recommend Pomegranate White tea or Spiced Chai tea from Trader Joes. Add Stevia and it helps me stay away from dessert for the evening. :) 5. More to come later about a book I’m writing, but I have been writing a lot, not just in preparation

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